• Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    There’s no such thing as a bad friend

    We all have friends who drive us a little crazy. Their inability to commit to plans is unmatched, their addiction to rap music could make ears bleed, and their aversion to fast food makes road trips far too healthy. But some part of us finds their quirks endearing (that’s what you guys think about me, right?), and if not endearing, the benefits of being their friend far outweigh occasionally pulling our hair out. And then there are the friends who don’t just drive us crazy, they make us crazy. Sometimes we wish that public displays of frustration were socially acceptable so we could shake, maybe even slap, some sense into…

  • My last resolution: To see a chance for change in every day
    Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    My last resolution: To see every day as a chance for change

    A new year, a new you. This year will be the year that we finally do all the things that we’ve been putting off. We’ll fit into those old jeans again, be more selfless, and keep the house a little cleaner. As of January 1, we will be new. There’s magic in that day. Except that there really isn’t, is there? The reality is that January 1 is no more life-changing than any other day. We are still the same people that we were the day before. We have the same strengths and weaknesses. The turn of the clock and the flip of the calendar hasn’t changed us.   What…

  • Everyday Embarrassment,  Everyday Inspiration

    Be proud of everything you do: On your birthday

    It all started with another one of my bright ideas. A few years back, I decided that my friends and I would all dress up and hit the town for my birthday. Girls in dresses, guys in ties. The night came, and while thunder and rain crashed down outside, I was throwing dresses out of my closet, putting them on, taking them off, generally in a huff that I, the birthday girl, couldn’t decide what to wear. All the while, I’m fielding calls from friends stuck in traffic due to power outages, adding three last minute people to our already seventeen person reservation, and ensuring my friend whose wiper blade…

  • Dating and Relationships,  Here's to the Single Ladies

    Don’t get married unless you have to

    I’ve hit an age (well actually, I hit it about 6 years ago) where marriage is a hot topic of conversation among my friends.   Not just among my female friends either. Apparently, we have finally arrived at an age where the guys have come around to the idea that maybe marriage isn’t the killer of all things fun (praise the Lord for this miracle). Throughout all of these discussions, which are often followed by take-out and Friends marathons to band-aid the pain, there is one theme that has emerged:   WHAT IS TAKING SO LONG?   Getting married certainly hasn’t happened on my timeline, nor that of most of…

  • Everyday Inspiration,  Uncategorized

    Why the red cup really matters

    Alright. We all saw it. The infamous controversy over the new Starbucks cups. In case you somehow missed it, there are Christians (supposedly) who weren’t all too thrilled that Starbucks went minimalist this year and removed all holiday/Christmas emblems from their holiday cups. (I must have somehow missed back when baby Jesus was on the cup. Bummer.) Here’s why I think this controversy really mattered, and should matter to Christians and non-Christians alike: The media set out to make the Christian community look petty, nitpicky and irrational, and in the end, it achieved the opposite. In a time when it seems that everyone, particularly the media, is just waiting for and expecting…

  • Everyday Embarrassment,  Everyday Inspiration

    Be proud of everything you do: On a date

    I make inexplicable choices. Because I am me. That pretty much sums it up. One of my favorite examples of this landed me bleeding on a first date. Let me back up. One of my really good friends, who I also had a crush on, invited me to his work Christmas party. I was pretty pumped about this because not only did I get to spend a night with a great guy, but I also got to dress up. Always a bonus. The night came and I headed to meet him at his house. Just one problem…my only option in his neighborhood was to parallel park… … Can’t be done. I…

  • Dating and Relationships

    What else is at play

    As a disclaimer to this post, I have never been married, and I’m not an authority on dating (ask any of my ex-boyfriends). But I am a twenty something, who is looking to marry, is a little frustrated with how that process has gone, and is the target audience for the “Marry Someone Who…” and “5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married” articles. (To anyone who doesn’t know what I’m talking about, go Google “Who you should marry”…you’ll be back to finish reading this in about ten hours). Let me start by saying, I love these articles. If you’re someone who has written one of these, or you’re a married person…

  • Becoming You,  Being Brave,  Everyday Inspiration

    A writer

    To be honest (that’s the whole point here, right?) I put off starting this blog for a long time. I’ve always loved writing, and I certainly have always loved giving my opinion, just ask my friends, or anyone who has ever met me. But actually putting my writing out there scared me. I was afraid of public ridicule. I didn’t want to be told I wasn’t good enough at something I loved so much. And more than anything, I had never identified myself as “a writer”. I haven’t been filling journals with poetry since I was ten, I never put “writer” down as what I wanted to be when I grew up,…