• Dating and Relationships,  Here's to the Single Ladies

    Three purposes of dating no one ever told me

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   Let me add a quick disclaimer to this post: I hate dating a solid 70% of the time.   Some days, its 100%. So if you’re reading this and thinking the same thing, I’m with you, and I’m not here to change your mind. I know how fruitless dating can seem, and how often it feels you’re wasting your time. But I do believe we’re gaining more than we realize with each date we go on, even when it produces no positive results.   I’m not talking “dating” like a committed relationship.   I’m talking first…

  • My Married Isnt Need Yet
    Christian Dating,  Dating and Relationships,  Here's to the Single Ladies

    My marriage isn’t needed yet

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   “God’s still getting him ready for you”   I’ve heard this, or some variation, time and time again as a single person. Sometimes it’s that God is still getting my husband ready for me, other times, its that I’m not ready, or we aren’t ready for each other. And I can understand the intention. There is a certain degree of finding and knowing yourself that’s important ahead of a relationship, and a level of being prepared for the commitment. But while I understand, my gut reaction to those comments is always one of feeling like somehow…

  • Everyday Inspiration

    An authentic mess: That’s life

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   “That’s life.” I used to hate that phrase. It’s usually offered with a shrug after something far less than ideal has happened to someone who had a very different plan in mind, as if pointing out that life is out of our control is any sort of consolation. I’ve always thought it a particularly unreasonable phrase for a perfectionist like me. “ ‘That’s life’? You expect me to just accept that my perfect, storybook, Hollywood blockbuster-level plan fell apart because that’s just how life is? No thank you. And if in fact things don’t go well,…

  • Becoming You,  Being Brave,  Here's to the Single Ladies,  The Single Life

    Finding yourself when supposed to happen, didn’t happen

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   “Are you just looking at pictures of yourself on Facebook again?”   That’s what my roommate would say whenever she caught me in the act. Just flipping through photos of myself. Sheepish and red-cheeked, I would put my phone down. How vain could you be? Just ticking away moments looking at yourself. But what my roommate didn’t realize is that often when I do that, it’s because I can’t believe those photos are me. The places I’ve been, the things I’ve done, the friends I’ve made.   I often wonder what my reaction would have been…

  • Contentment and you young people
    Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    Contentment and you young people

    I have to admit something. I’m ashamed, and a little embarrassed but…I have to tell you that I just turned 29 and, according to this article online, I have just not accomplished anything at all in life so far. By the time I’m 30, apparently I’m supposed to have traveled to all seven continents, climbed Mt. Everest, run with the bulls, read 150,000 books, gotten my dream job AND cured cancer, all while maintaining a thriving social life, feeding myself and doing laundry. I don’t know about you, but, if I see another one of these “Things you should do by the time you’re 30” articles, I’m going to start…

  • We Never Stop Growing Up
    Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    We never stop growing up

    When you turn 18, you become an adult. You can vote, you can fight for your country, your parents are ready to send you off to college or maybe just give you the bill for the last 18 years and send you on your way. You’re supposed to be grown up. Well, its been ten years since I turned 18, and I feel anything but grown up. If a child ran up to me saying they needed help and looking for an adult, I’d have to say “Oh! Me too! Let’s look for one together.”   You see, I’m not a grown up.   I still sleep till 11am on…

  • Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    Why I go to counseling

    Man is life hard sometimes. I’m sure you’ve noticed that by now. I don’t think its a realization that anyone escapes. We all hit a rough patch, or two, or hundreds. And sometimes even adjusting to the most tremendously wonderful parts of our lives can be hard. I mean, have you ever met a new parent, or someone planning a wedding? Not to mention that regardless of the circumstance, just living inside our own heads can be exhausting. I’m sure we’ve all had moments where we think “Why in the world do I think that way? And why in the world can’t I stop?”   Life is hard sometimes. Its…

  • Dating and Relationships,  Here's to the Single Ladies

    Four life lessons that make dating a little less awful

    Dating is hard. It just is. For most of us, its a means to a more committed end, and so we endure it, but sometimes dating is just the worst. I’m not talking “dating” like a relationship. I’m talking guy meets girl, guy asks girl on date, both spend the evening nervously trying not to throw up, guy says he’ll call girl, girl spends next week making list of reasons that he hasn’t. Repeat. For someone like me who is so commitment focused, the entire dating process can seem unbearable. You’ll often find me with my arms crossed, pouty face on (its super cute, you should see it), exclaiming that…

  • Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    God is disruptive

    God is disruptive. Have you ever noticed that? Straight up disruptive. He’s won’t just leave things the same. No matter how perfectly situated I get my life, no matter how perfectly I’ve trained my ducks to swim in that row, He inevitably does a cannon ball into the pond. Even better, sometimes He’s more sneaky. It’s not a big event that throws everything off. Sometimes its small, subtle changes where at first I don’t notice, and then suddenly one day I’m ugly crying into a tub of ice cream wondering how things got to where they are. Its uncomfortable. Its messes up my makeup. And its painful.   Why does…

  • Becoming You,  Everyday Inspiration

    There’s no such thing as a bad friend

    We all have friends who drive us a little crazy. Their inability to commit to plans is unmatched, their addiction to rap music could make ears bleed, and their aversion to fast food makes road trips far too healthy. But some part of us finds their quirks endearing (that’s what you guys think about me, right?), and if not endearing, the benefits of being their friend far outweigh occasionally pulling our hair out. And then there are the friends who don’t just drive us crazy, they make us crazy. Sometimes we wish that public displays of frustration were socially acceptable so we could shake, maybe even slap, some sense into…