• Why we don't need to dread extended singleness
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    Why we don’t need to dread extended singleness

    “Please, God, don’t let me be single that long”   Do you ever meet people who got married far older than you are now, and have this thought? Most people would imagine that stories of women getting married older would give us single ladies hope. But often, instead, they send us into imagination-mode. Imagining what our life would look like if we, in fact, did not get married for the next x number of years.   I think about what my own twenty year old self would have thought about me being single for, at least, another eleven years.   The story in her mind would likely have gone something…

  • "Are you my husband?" Learning to live in expectant anticipation while enjoying the here and now | Singleness | Christian Singles | Dating Advice | Expectant Hope | Being Hopeful | Choose Joy | Finding Joy | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    “Are you my husband?”: Learning to live in expectant anticipation, while enjoying the here and now

    “Will there be any new guys at this party?” “Hopefully there’s a single groomsman in this wedding” “That guy isn’t wearing a ring. Maybe it’s him!” “What if I meet him on this trip?” “New guy at Bible study! Could it be?”   Sound familiar?   It certainly does to me. At times, these have been my literal thoughts when I’ve gone, well, anywhere. Like the baby bird in the children’s book “Are You My Mother?”, I started to look at every guy in any situation as if to ask “Are you my husband?” Is it him? Will I find him here? Is today the day? There was certainly nothing…

  • Why my feelings don't tell the true story of my singleness | Singleness | Single Christian | Being Single | Advice for singleness | The real story | Feelings | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Why my feelings alone don’t tell the true story of my singleness

    In church yesterday, the pastor said something that struck me.   Honestly, it wasn’t an earth shattering revelation, but rather one of those simple truths of the human experience. It went something like this:   “As humans, we innately believe that if something feels good, it is good. If something feels bad, it is bad.”   Oh how often has this been true in my life. How many times I’ve felt the pang of loneliness, the sting of comparison, the drop of my confidence as I felt left behind. How many times I’ve hated my singleness, and named it “bad”. On the other side, how many times I’ve felt the…

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    How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness

    I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, everyone else feels like they can do it too. That thought threw me back to the way I used to look at living life as a single girl.   Growing up, I had never seen a woman live and thrive in life without a man.   That wasn’t the story in my family, nor in…

  • Why our beliefs about our singleness matter | Singleness | Being Single | Words Matter | Words are Actions | Be Positive | Singleness Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Why our beliefs about our singleness matter

    A few months ago I changed the tagline of my blog to “Changing the Way We Think About Singleness.”   Though I’ve been writing for several years now, I never quite knew what I wanted my message to be. Then I noticed a theme. My writing had become an extension of my own personal journey with singleness, and there was one aspect that evolved most throughout the story:   The way that I thought about singleness.   You see, early on in my journey with singleness, I drew conclusions based on what I thought I saw around me. Those conclusions became repetitive thoughts, that eventually became beliefs:   Everyone I…

  • What it looks like to be content single, and still looking (and why we can do both) | Content Single | Contentment | Singleness | Being Single | Single Christian | Dating Tips | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    What it looks like to be content single and still looking (and why we can do both)

    What was your reaction the first time someone suggested being content in your singleness?   I’m pretty sure my internal response was something like “Um sure, thanks for your input. Now please take that thought with you and get on up outta here. Also don’t come back. Thanks. God bless.” I literally could not wrap my mind around it. To me, saying yes to contentment meant saying no to ever being married. It felt like giving up. If I was content, why would I keep looking? How would it ever happen? I honestly used to have those thoughts.   But then last week, as I sat alone on a beach…

  • "I can't do that because I'm single": Encouragement for when singleness feels limiting | Singleness Quotes | Single Woman | Live Life | Be Brave | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    “I can’t do that because I’m single”: Encouragement for when your singleness feels limiting

    A few weeks ago I posted a photo of “me and the hubs” at my family picture day on Instagram.     (he’s pretty stinking good looking, am I right?!) Well here’s my real, very senior portrait looking photo from that day. And do you know what I love most about it? I asked for it to be taken.     As I’m sure we’ve all realized, family photos can be a bit awkward as a single girl.   Everyone is lining up to take photos with their own families, husbands, boyfriends, whatever, and we’re just standing on the sidelines, probably waiting to take pictures with our parents (no offense,…

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    “This would be better with a boyfriend”: Learning to enjoy the moment single

    Well friends, I’ve had a revelation.   I recently took a work trip to Seattle, and while many say they never see anything outside of the meeting room and their hotel while on business travel, I refuse to take a six hour plane ride to see nothing but four walls in a different zip code. So every chance that I could get away, I took it to go explore. One evening I rushed out of a meeting to get to the space needle before dinner. I arrived at sunset and road the elevator to the observation deck with a few friendly couples.     It was honestly the most romantic…

  • A plea to the single girl on Valentines Day | Single on Valentines Day | Singleness | Singleness Advice | Embracing Singleness | Being Single | Single Life | Single Christian | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    A plea to the single girl on Valentine’s Day

    Happy Valentine’s Day, loves!   While today can be a fun day of sweet notes and candy hearts, I have something I really need to tell any of my single ladies who may be scrolling their social media today feeling left out or unloved. And here it is:   I need you to know that today changes nothing.   I know that your senses are being bombarded with images of what you want and don’t have (yet), and because of that, you may find yourself tempted to buy into the lies this day sometimes tells. Lies that say that because you are single you are:   Unworthy Unloved Forgotten Not…

  • Where did all the single christian men go?: Encouragement for when the options feel limited | Christian Dating | Christian Singles | Singleness Quotes | Single Life | God Quotes | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    “Where did all the single, Christian men go?”: Encouragement for when the options feel limited

    Ok ladies.   It’s time to talk honestly about something I’ve heard from so many single Christian women lately. It seems we’ve all been doing an awful lot of number crunching, and the numbers just don’t seem to be adding up.   Based on our calculations, it seems there are far more single Christian women than men.   And whether it’s actually true or not, it certainly FEELS that way, and it’s discouraging. I get it. I get seeing the new guy walk through the church doors as every single woman turns her head and whispers to the girl next to her, ready to make her move and beat the…