• "Wait, SHE'S Getting Married?": Encouragement for When Jealousy Takes Hold | Singleness Quotes | Jealousy | Singleness | Hope in Singleness | Singleness Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Dating and Relationships,  Here's to the Single Ladies,  The Single Life

    “Wait, SHE’S getting married?!”: Encouragement for when jealousy takes hold

    “Wait, SHE’S getting married?”   Sound familiar? Maybe those words have never come out of your mouth, but I’d venture to guess that as a single girl, at some point you’ve had this thought. (And if not, you’re a far better person than I am) You see people around you getting engaged. Maybe people who are younger than you (preach), people less experienced than you, and people who you’ve judged to simply be less deserving than you.   Why God has given them exactly what you wanted doesn’t make sense.   Doesn’t He know you’ve been waiting? Doesn’t He know you’ve done everything to earn what she has? But here’s…

  • Eighty and Never Married: A Single Woman's Advice for the Next Generation | Singleness Quotes | Never Married | Advice for Singles | Being Single | The Single Life | Single Christian | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Becoming You,  Here's to the Single Ladies,  The Single Life

    Eighty and never married: A single woman’s advice for the next generation

    Many of you may not know this, but long before Beautifully Honest, I had another blog, my first blog, called The Swing Set (swingsetproject.com).   The mission of the blog was to interview elderly members of our community and inspire others with their wisdom and life stories. The first person I ever interviewed for that blog was a woman named Beverly. Beverly was never married, and although she had the opportunity several times, she said she just never found anyone she felt was the right fit. I haven’t seen Miss Beverly since I wrote her post four years ago, but today at church I recognized her instantly, sitting in the…

  • Becoming You,  Here's to the Single Ladies,  Quick Reads,  The Single Life

    “This would be better with a boyfriend”: Learning to enjoy the moment single

    Well friends, I’ve had a revelation.   I recently took a work trip to Seattle, and while many say they never see anything outside of the meeting room and their hotel while on business travel, I refuse to take a six hour plane ride to see nothing but four walls in a different zip code. So every chance that I could get away, I took it to go explore. One evening I rushed out of a meeting to get to the space needle before dinner. I arrived at sunset and road the elevator to the observation deck with a few friendly couples.     It was honestly the most romantic…

  • A plea to the single girl on Valentines Day | Single on Valentines Day | Singleness | Singleness Advice | Embracing Singleness | Being Single | Single Life | Single Christian | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Here's to the Single Ladies,  Quick Reads,  The Single Life

    A plea to the single girl on Valentine’s Day

    Happy Valentine’s Day, loves!   While today can be a fun day of sweet notes and candy hearts, I have something I really need to tell any of my single ladies who may be scrolling their social media today feeling left out or unloved. And here it is:   I need you to know that today changes nothing.   I know that your senses are being bombarded with images of what you want and don’t have (yet), and because of that, you may find yourself tempted to buy into the lies this day sometimes tells. Lies that say that because you are single you are:   Unworthy Unloved Forgotten Not…

  • "Did I Miss the Boat?" Encouragement for when you feel like the only single girl left | Christian Singles | Singleness Quotes | Singleness Advice | Life Advice | Single Women
    Here's to the Single Ladies,  The Single Life

    “Did I miss the boat?” Encouragement for when you feel like the only single girl left

    Over the last few years, I’ve noticed a significant drop in the number of single men and women around me.    In fact, it’s to the point where I’ve started to wonder if I missed the boat. Like for real though. Did a group of single, Christian young men pull up, find wives, and sail off into the sunset together? Did I literally miss the boat? Is it coming back?!   Do you know that feeling?   It feels like everyone around you is getting married or in a relationship, and you’re just over here still “deeply single”, “waiting for your Boaz”…whatever people are calling it these days. I know…

  • Four things to remember when someone judges your singleness | Encouragement for singles | Christian Singles | Misunderstanding of Singleness | Singleness Quotes | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Here's to the Single Ladies,  The Single Life

    Four things to remember when someone judges your singleness

    “When we said you couldn’t get married until you’re 40, we were joking.”   That’s a quote from “The DTR Blog” (if you don’t follow her on Instagram, DO IT NOW) from when she asked people to share ridiculous things their family members said to them about their singleness over the holidays. While I chuckled to myself as I read that quote, I also thought, “Wow, how must that have made that person feel?” I know that if it were me, I would have definitely felt a little hurt.   This isn’t the first time I’ve heard of people, especially family, making hurtful comments toward singles.   Often “jokingly” asking…

  • I didn't get married this year (again): A single girl's year in review | Singleness Quotes | New Years Inspiration | Following God | Year in Review | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Here's to the Single Ladies,  The Single Life

    I didn’t get married this year (again): A single girl’s year in review

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   Well y’all, I didn’t get married this year. Again.   No planning was done, no invitations were sent out. I didn’t walk down an aisle (except at the grocery store, which honestly might be better?). No white dresses were bought, or bouquets tossed. My “One Day” Pinterest board remained unused, only continuing to collect crafty wedding decor that I am utterly unequipped to ever actually execute. In fact, I’m on a solid 31 year streak of not getting married.   Truthfully, getting married, or at least getting a boyfriend, was one of my only goals for…

  • "Next year will be different, right God?": Finding joy in today while hoping for tomorrow | Single at Christmas | Singleness Quotes | Choosing Joy | The Little Things in Life | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Everyday Inspiration,  Here's to the Single Ladies,  Quick Reads,  The Single Life

    “But next year will be different, right God?”: Finding joy in today while hoping for tomorrow

    In most years past I’ve found myself bargaining with God this time of year.   “Ok God, I was single for the holidays again this year, but next year is the year it’s going to be different, right?”   But over the last several years, I’ve grown weary of waiting to live my life until it starts syncing with my timeline. So this holiday season, I’ve been taking the time to pause and appreciate this stage of life. Truthfully, a younger version of myself would have thought I had lost my ever-loving mind making a statement like that. Doesn’t enjoying where you are mean you’ve given up on what you…

  • A plea to the single girl at Christmas | Single at Christmas | Singleness Quotes | Choosing Joy | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Here's to the Single Ladies,  Quick Reads,  The Single Life

    A plea to the single girl at Christmas

    “But wouldn’t it be better if…”   Those words have come out of my mouth more times than I can count. And just seeing them now is immediately deflating. Wouldn’t it be better if… Those words have robbed me of all joy on countless special occasions. Birthdays, weddings, vacations, and especially, the holidays. The second that I start to feel a smidgen of joy, I snatch it away from myself by fantasizing how it could be better. How it would OBVIOUSLY be better if I just had a boyfriend.   But here’s the thing I’ve learned after many joyless holidays:   I don’t actually KNOW if it would be “better…

  • "What would I do if I knew I would never get married?: A single girl's reflection on waiting| Waiting for the one | Singleness Advice | Don't Wait | Live Life | justbeautifullyhonest.com
    Here's to the Single Ladies,  Quick Reads,  The Single Life

    What would I do if I knew I would never get married?: A single girl’s reflection on waiting

    I was chatting with a friend recently and she mentioned she’s started asking herself, “What would I do if I knew I would never get married?”   What dreams would she pursue? Where would she go? How would her choices be different if she weren’t waiting for her relationship status to change? I thought, how often are we as single women guilty of making our life choices based on a man who hasn’t shown up yet?   We so often wonder if we will ever get married, not just because it’s a hope in our hearts, but because we would make different choices if we knew.   And until we…