• Why my feelings don't tell the true story of my singleness | Singleness | Single Christian | Being Single | Advice for singleness | The real story | Feelings | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Why my feelings alone don’t tell the true story of my singleness

    In church yesterday, the pastor said something that struck me.   Honestly, it wasn’t an earth shattering revelation, but rather one of those simple truths of the human experience. It went something like this:   “As humans, we innately believe that if something feels good, it is good. If something feels bad, it is bad.”   Oh how often has this been true in my life. How many times I’ve felt the pang of loneliness, the sting of comparison, the drop of my confidence as I felt left behind. How many times I’ve hated my singleness, and named it “bad”. On the other side, how many times I’ve felt the…

  • How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness | Singleness | Christian Singles | Going First | Be the First | Living Well | Dating Tips | Being Single | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness

    I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, everyone else feels like they can do it too. That thought threw me back to the way I used to look at living life as a single girl.   Growing up, I had never seen a woman live and thrive in life without a man.   That wasn’t the story in my family, nor in…

  • Why our beliefs about our singleness matter | Singleness | Being Single | Words Matter | Words are Actions | Be Positive | Singleness Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Why our beliefs about our singleness matter

    A few months ago I changed the tagline of my blog to “Changing the Way We Think About Singleness.”   Though I’ve been writing for several years now, I never quite knew what I wanted my message to be. Then I noticed a theme. My writing had become an extension of my own personal journey with singleness, and there was one aspect that evolved most throughout the story:   The way that I thought about singleness.   You see, early on in my journey with singleness, I drew conclusions based on what I thought I saw around me. Those conclusions became repetitive thoughts, that eventually became beliefs:   Everyone I…

  • What it looks like to be content single, and still looking (and why we can do both) | Content Single | Contentment | Singleness | Being Single | Single Christian | Dating Tips | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    What it looks like to be content single and still looking (and why we can do both)

    What was your reaction the first time someone suggested being content in your singleness?   I’m pretty sure my internal response was something like “Um sure, thanks for your input. Now please take that thought with you and get on up outta here. Also don’t come back. Thanks. God bless.” I literally could not wrap my mind around it. To me, saying yes to contentment meant saying no to ever being married. It felt like giving up. If I was content, why would I keep looking? How would it ever happen? I honestly used to have those thoughts.   But then last week, as I sat alone on a beach…

  • "I can't do that because I'm single": Encouragement for when singleness feels limiting | Singleness Quotes | Single Woman | Live Life | Be Brave | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    “I can’t do that because I’m single”: Encouragement for when your singleness feels limiting

    A few weeks ago I posted a photo of “me and the hubs” at my family picture day on Instagram.     (he’s pretty stinking good looking, am I right?!) Well here’s my real, very senior portrait looking photo from that day. And do you know what I love most about it? I asked for it to be taken.     As I’m sure we’ve all realized, family photos can be a bit awkward as a single girl.   Everyone is lining up to take photos with their own families, husbands, boyfriends, whatever, and we’re just standing on the sidelines, probably waiting to take pictures with our parents (no offense,…

  • Eighty and Never Married: A Single Woman's Advice for the Next Generation | Singleness Quotes | Never Married | Advice for Singles | Being Single | The Single Life | Single Christian | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Eighty and never married: A single woman’s advice for the next generation

    Many of you may not know this, but long before Beautifully Honest, I had another blog, my first blog, called The Swing Set (swingsetproject.com).   The mission of the blog was to interview elderly members of our community and inspire others with their wisdom and life stories. The first person I ever interviewed for that blog was a woman named Beverly. Beverly was never married, and although she had the opportunity several times, she said she just never found anyone she felt was the right fit. I haven’t seen Miss Beverly since I wrote her post four years ago, but today at church I recognized her instantly, sitting in the…

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    “This would be better with a boyfriend”: Learning to enjoy the moment single

    Well friends, I’ve had a revelation.   I recently took a work trip to Seattle, and while many say they never see anything outside of the meeting room and their hotel while on business travel, I refuse to take a six hour plane ride to see nothing but four walls in a different zip code. So every chance that I could get away, I took it to go explore. One evening I rushed out of a meeting to get to the space needle before dinner. I arrived at sunset and road the elevator to the observation deck with a few friendly couples.     It was honestly the most romantic…

  • Single Girl This is Your Year | New Years Resolutions | Singleness Quotes | Being Single | Single and Thriving | Following God | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Single girl, this is your year

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   “This is your year.”   That phrase is one of the most reassuring things someone can say to me. To hear that THIS year, THIS YEAR is going to be MY year, and that they believe it to be so. They believe that no matter what I’m leaving behind in the year before, something good is coming in the next. But while that phrase can be applied to all sorts of aspects of life, historically I only cared if someone said it to me in relation to finding a man. “Girl, this is your year. This…

  • Dear Single Girl, You've Got This | Encouragement for the single girl doing life on her own | Independent Woman | Making it on my own | Single Christian | Singleness Quotes
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    Dear single girl, you’ve got this

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   Dear Fellow Single Girl,   Whew, girl. I’ve been feeling it lately. That overwhelming feeling I sometimes get when I just wish I had a partner to do this life with. Do you know that feeling I mean? It comes and goes but man, lately it has come in with a vengeance. From car trouble, to unexpected bills, to all that comes with moving, and starting a new job. It’s felt like a lot, one thing after another, and sometimes all I want is someone to just take out the gosh darn trash while I deal…

  • Real Talk: Singleness and Finances | Encouragement for the single girl making it on her own | Independent Woman | Making it on my Own | Single Christian | Singleness Quotes | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Real talk: Singleness and finances

      Want to hear this post straight from me? Click the link above!   I’ve been thinking about the best way to approach this post for a while.   I wanted to have all of the answers to the financial challenges of being a single girl making it on her own. But the reality is, that I just don’t. I don’t have it all figured out. In fact, not even close. I haven’t figured out how to magically materialize more money for myself. I’m completely and utterly terrified that I’ll never be able to retire. Every time that I look at buying a house I crumble at the impossiblity. When…