• Why my feelings don't tell the true story of my singleness | Singleness | Single Christian | Being Single | Advice for singleness | The real story | Feelings | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Why my feelings alone don’t tell the true story of my singleness

    In church yesterday, the pastor said something that struck me.   Honestly, it wasn’t an earth shattering revelation, but rather one of those simple truths of the human experience. It went something like this:   “As humans, we innately believe that if something feels good, it is good. If something feels bad, it is bad.”   Oh how often has this been true in my life. How many times I’ve felt the pang of loneliness, the sting of comparison, the drop of my confidence as I felt left behind. How many times I’ve hated my singleness, and named it “bad”. On the other side, how many times I’ve felt the…

  • How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness | Singleness | Christian Singles | Going First | Be the First | Living Well | Dating Tips | Being Single | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness

    I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, everyone else feels like they can do it too. That thought threw me back to the way I used to look at living life as a single girl.   Growing up, I had never seen a woman live and thrive in life without a man.   That wasn’t the story in my family, nor in…

  • Why our beliefs about our singleness matter | Singleness | Being Single | Words Matter | Words are Actions | Be Positive | Singleness Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Why our beliefs about our singleness matter

    A few months ago I changed the tagline of my blog to “Changing the Way We Think About Singleness.”   Though I’ve been writing for several years now, I never quite knew what I wanted my message to be. Then I noticed a theme. My writing had become an extension of my own personal journey with singleness, and there was one aspect that evolved most throughout the story:   The way that I thought about singleness.   You see, early on in my journey with singleness, I drew conclusions based on what I thought I saw around me. Those conclusions became repetitive thoughts, that eventually became beliefs:   Everyone I…

  • What it looks like to be content single, and still looking (and why we can do both) | Content Single | Contentment | Singleness | Being Single | Single Christian | Dating Tips | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    What it looks like to be content single and still looking (and why we can do both)

    What was your reaction the first time someone suggested being content in your singleness?   I’m pretty sure my internal response was something like “Um sure, thanks for your input. Now please take that thought with you and get on up outta here. Also don’t come back. Thanks. God bless.” I literally could not wrap my mind around it. To me, saying yes to contentment meant saying no to ever being married. It felt like giving up. If I was content, why would I keep looking? How would it ever happen? I honestly used to have those thoughts.   But then last week, as I sat alone on a beach…

  • "I can't do that because I'm single": Encouragement for when singleness feels limiting | Singleness Quotes | Single Woman | Live Life | Be Brave | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    “I can’t do that because I’m single”: Encouragement for when your singleness feels limiting

    A few weeks ago I posted a photo of “me and the hubs” at my family picture day on Instagram.     (he’s pretty stinking good looking, am I right?!) Well here’s my real, very senior portrait looking photo from that day. And do you know what I love most about it? I asked for it to be taken.     As I’m sure we’ve all realized, family photos can be a bit awkward as a single girl.   Everyone is lining up to take photos with their own families, husbands, boyfriends, whatever, and we’re just standing on the sidelines, probably waiting to take pictures with our parents (no offense,…

  • "Wait, SHE'S Getting Married?": Encouragement for When Jealousy Takes Hold | Singleness Quotes | Jealousy | Singleness | Hope in Singleness | Singleness Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    “Wait, SHE’S getting married?!”: Encouragement for when jealousy takes hold

    “Wait, SHE’S getting married?”   Sound familiar? Maybe those words have never come out of your mouth, but I’d venture to guess that as a single girl, at some point you’ve had this thought. (And if not, you’re a far better person than I am) You see people around you getting engaged. Maybe people who are younger than you (preach), people less experienced than you, and people who you’ve judged to simply be less deserving than you.   Why God has given them exactly what you wanted doesn’t make sense.   Doesn’t He know you’ve been waiting? Doesn’t He know you’ve done everything to earn what she has? But here’s…

  • Eighty and Never Married: A Single Woman's Advice for the Next Generation | Singleness Quotes | Never Married | Advice for Singles | Being Single | The Single Life | Single Christian | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    Eighty and never married: A single woman’s advice for the next generation

    Many of you may not know this, but long before Beautifully Honest, I had another blog, my first blog, called The Swing Set (swingsetproject.com).   The mission of the blog was to interview elderly members of our community and inspire others with their wisdom and life stories. The first person I ever interviewed for that blog was a woman named Beverly. Beverly was never married, and although she had the opportunity several times, she said she just never found anyone she felt was the right fit. I haven’t seen Miss Beverly since I wrote her post four years ago, but today at church I recognized her instantly, sitting in the…

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    “This would be better with a boyfriend”: Learning to enjoy the moment single

    Well friends, I’ve had a revelation.   I recently took a work trip to Seattle, and while many say they never see anything outside of the meeting room and their hotel while on business travel, I refuse to take a six hour plane ride to see nothing but four walls in a different zip code. So every chance that I could get away, I took it to go explore. One evening I rushed out of a meeting to get to the space needle before dinner. I arrived at sunset and road the elevator to the observation deck with a few friendly couples.     It was honestly the most romantic…

  • A plea to the single girl on Valentines Day | Single on Valentines Day | Singleness | Singleness Advice | Embracing Singleness | Being Single | Single Life | Single Christian | justbeautifullyhonest.com
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    A plea to the single girl on Valentine’s Day

    Happy Valentine’s Day, loves!   While today can be a fun day of sweet notes and candy hearts, I have something I really need to tell any of my single ladies who may be scrolling their social media today feeling left out or unloved. And here it is:   I need you to know that today changes nothing.   I know that your senses are being bombarded with images of what you want and don’t have (yet), and because of that, you may find yourself tempted to buy into the lies this day sometimes tells. Lies that say that because you are single you are:   Unworthy Unloved Forgotten Not…

  • Five Things to Know Before Online Dating (from a girl who has made every mistake) | Online Dating | Dating Advice | Singleness | Singleness Quotes | Dating Quotes | Online Dating Advice
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    Five things to know before online dating (from a girl who has made every mistake)

    Online dating has saturated our generation’s dating culture.   It’s brought countless people together, but has also been a point of deep frustration for others (“Why hasn’t he messaged me back?” “Why did we talk for a week and never meet up?” “Why did he swipe right if he wasn’t really interested?!” You feel me?). I truly believe that online dating can be a great avenue for people looking for a relationship, but I also think that as with any type of dating, it’s important for us to be prepared, realistic, and do our best to lessen frustration and disappointment whenever we can. After all, dating is hard enough. We…